Hey guys! Welcome back. Today we are talking all about friendships, their significance, and also, why they don’t always last forever. I’ve had many friends in my life time, but these relationships didn’t all last. In fact I’m not friends with most of these people now. But I wanted to go through and give my thoughts and feelings on the matter because I think it’s important and something worth discussing.
I want to start by saying I don’t regret any of the friends I have made in my life. They all were so amazing and I love and care about each of them still to this day. Every single person I have came close to has played such a special role in shaping the person I am. Some gave me confidence, some helped me through some difficult times, some showed me my worth and value, and some did all of this and more. I will always be eternally grateful for all of these people.
With that being said, I think it goes without saying, no friendship is perfect. No one is perfect. We have ups and downs, good and bad days. We fight, we love, we laugh, we cry. We are human. I won’t talk much about my high school “friends” because I don’t think these people were really my friends. But that’s a topic for another time. I mostly want to talk about my college friends and the people that really shaped me.
The summer before I went to college was a difficult time for me. I was a victim of sexual abuse and it scars me to this day. But I went on with my life and I went on to college unsure of what the outcome would be. Unsure if I would be able to make it. I was broken and confused and depressed. I had been depressed for some time though, so that was nothing new. I wasn’t trying to make new friends because I didn’t want to bring anyone into this mess that was my life.
But there were quite a few amazing people that helped pull me through this tragedy. I had an amazing roommate. She is from China and she is wonderful. She really helped me see the light and the good in the situation. She helped me realize that all this led me to where I am today. I also made some amazing friends in my Freshman seminar class. These people, even knowing my situation, never gave up on me. They allowed me to be myself and really opened my eyes to the opportunities and possibilities around me. And even though I transferred schools and don’t talk to these people much anymore I am so thankful for there brief presence in my life.
So that’s my short story about my experience with friendships. I have another post coming later completely dedicated to the only real friend I have right now and how Snapchat has really been a blessing to our friendship. She is the only person I talk to everyday and a blessing none the less.
As I said before, friendships are amazing and they shouldn’t be taken for granted. That’s why most of mine ended. I took these people for granted. The reality is, most friendships don’t last forever. We grow apart, move away, or something gets in the way of our relationship. There is nothing more difficult than losing a friend you thought you would have forever. I know this from personal experience.
Friendships don’t last forever. But that doesn’t mean they don’t mean anything. Your time spent with each person should be valued, no matter how long or short that friendship was. Each person was in your life for a reason, and that reason should be why you are grateful for that relationship. Your time with each person was special for your own reasons. You should allow yourself to look back about be thankful that that person was there for whatever reason at whatever time regardless of how it ended.
Each friend you make is a blessing. There is no denying that. I love each person that I am or was friends with. I wouldn’t be the person I am without them. I encourage you to look back on each of your friendships, both past and present, and be grateful for what they are doing or have done in your life. And if you can, thank them. Everyone likes to be appreciated.
And with that I am going to end this blog. I didn’t think it was going to be this long, but hey, what are you going to do? Thank you so much for reading! I hope you will come back and read some more. Check out some of my previous posts if you like. There are some good ones coming up. Don’t forget to like this and subscribe if you’re not already. And I will see you next time!