Hey guys! Welcome back. Today I wanted to write something that it took my a long time to learn. And don’t get me wrong, I still have my moments. But I think it’s important that we all learn that there is someone out there that deserves who we are and what to offer. And if you are in a relationship with someone who doesn’t, you need to move on no matter how difficult it may be.
Sometimes we have relationships where we truly care and love the other person, but they do things that make us feel like they don’t feel the way we do. They aren’t kind or honest or faithful. But we continue to be with this person because we choose to see the fabricated version of them we have made them up as. And we shouldn’t. If you are genuine and loving and caring, you deserve someone who can appreciate that and return the favor.
If you are in a relationship with someone who doesn’t seem to care at all, you shouldn’t be putting any effort in yourself. No relationship should be one sided. There is give and take. If you feel that someone is taking advantage of you in any way, you are not in a healthy relationship. The person you are with should want to be with you and want to talk to you and show interest in you. They should never try to change you or make you feel unworthy. When someone doesn’t give you what you deserve, it doesn’t mean you should try harder. It means you should let go and move on.
But don’t start hating yourself. This isn’t your fault. If your significant other really loved you, you probably would not feel this way. Let’s just be honest. And I am talking to all people. Girls make guys feel this way too. This is not by any means a feminist article. I am speaking to anyone who feels unloved and unworthy in any way. If you feel like you are giving everything to this relationship and the other person is giving nothing, it’s not about you. It’s about them getting attention only when they need or want it. What you want or need doesn’t matter to them. And you deserve more than that.
You are not required to give anyone any time or effort that does not deserve it. You do not have to give them attention if they don’t give you any. You are not obligated to stay in a relationship with someone who does not value you or see your worth. Your only obligation is to yourself. Find what makes you happy. And if that means leaving, then do it. Don’t worry about their feelings any longer.
Don’t be the best version of yourself for the wrong people. Surround yourself with people that bring out the best in you and make you happy. Find people that want to be around you and spend time with you. Those are the people you deserve to have in your life. Put yourself first and know what you are worth. And let the good people come to you naturally. If you are happy and positive, those around you should be as well.
Thank you so much for reading. I hope you enjoyed this or it helped you. Please don’t forget to like it and definitely comment your thoughts below. Also follow me if you are not already and I will see you next time.