Hey guys! Welcome back. It’s officially August, so by now you should have your room assignment. You should know who your roommate will be and what room you will be staying in. If not it should come sooner rather than later. If this is your first time in college and your first time having a roommate, it can be intimidating. To break the ice, I recommend reaching out to them before you even meet them. The school will provide basic information like their name and email and sometimes their phone number. This is a great place to start!

Start with an introduction email.

Start with telling the who you are, where you are from, and your major (if you know). They might follow up with an email. If they do you’re in! Keep exchanging emails until you are comfortable moving on to other forms of communication.

Use social media. 

Almost everyone has it. You can try to find them or you both share your information with the other person. This way you can learn a little more about each other. Just keep in mind that not everyone shares everything on social media.

What to share…

When it comes to contacting someone for the first time, it’s important to know what is too much when it comes to sharing. Maybe don’t let the first thing you talk about be your relationship history or political views. Start with these things.

  • Share basic facts: favorite color (for decorating purposes), if you like to be hot or cold, how messy you are, what time you typically go to bed, etc.
  • Set some boundaries. Discuss what things you plan on sharing and what things are off limits. Decide what you are bringing and what they are bringing in term of appliances and decorations.
  • Talk as much as you need to. Get to know one another, but keep in mind that you don’t have to become best friends before you meet. You can leave some things for when you meet or you can talk all the time. Don’t do anything you aren’t comfortable doing. If you want to stop after the email, that’s fine.
  • Don’t judge a book by it’s cover. It’s cliche for a reason. Even though you may talk to your roommate and get to know them, you don’t know everything. You don’t know what has happened to them in the past or even what they might be going through in that moment. Be kind and supportive.

Keep an open mind. 

No matter what your roommate is like or where they are from, be open to their friendship. You may or may not be best friends, but it may turn into something amazing. Everyone could use a friend when entering college so don’t be too harsh to turning away the possibility of a friendship.

Going to college for the first time is both stressful and exciting. Having a roommate for the first time and not knowing that person can be extremely overwhelming. But stay open to what is in store and I promise it will be okay. Thank you so much for stopping by! I hope you find this helpful. Please like it if you do. Don’t forget to follow before you leave if you have not already and I hope to see you next time!