Hey guys! Welcome back. I hope you are enjoying the beginning of your week. Move-In Day has arrived quickly and I know very soon there will be a swarm or new college students all around. It can be a crazy and exciting experience. However, it can also be difficult if you are moving into a dorm for the first time with a roommate you don’t know. For that reason, I compiled a list of things I think make a good roommate just based off of the three previous roommates I had.
The first one is to set ground rules. Understand that compromise is good in any relationship and while you don’t have to be best friends with this person, you do have to live with them. So sit down with your roommate so you can both set some rules about how the room should operate. Listen to their requests. Make sure this isn’t one-sided. She has wants and needs as well and both parties need a say. You are sharing a space and it needs to be treated in that respect.
The next one goes without saying, but it is important so I will mention it anyway. Clean up after yourself. Put your trash in the garbage can. Don’t leave food lying around. If you spill something, clean it up. It is your responsibility. This will keep your room clean and tidy and prevent any unnecessary frustrations.
Everyone has things that are personal to them and don’t want to be touched. Also, people may have specific desires when it comes to boundaries. Respect their privacy. Everyone has a right to it. Don’t snoop through things that aren’t yours. If you warrant there is a problem, let someone know. Never go through someone else’s things no matter what your intentions.
It is true that you don’t have to be best friends with your roommate. However, that’s not to say that you shouldn’t at least try. Try to bond. Get to know one another. Talk about things you like, where you are from, and what your major is (if you know). Get to know the person you are going to be sharing a small space with for the next nine to ten months. It can be scary, but it’s worth trying.
You are sharing a tiny space. The idea is that you each get half of the room. With that said, everyone should have equal space. Keep your stuff on your side. Unless you decide that you will share a space, keep things to your side of the room. There is so little space already, therefore you don’t want to short your roommate. Keep things fair.
Everyone is different. The way you live your life may not be the same as your roommate. Respect their sleep and study habits. Don’t have your TV on super loud if your roommate is trying to sleep. Don’t have people over if your roommate is studying or working on something. Respect their needs and understand that they need that time and their space.
You live on a college campus and therefore, most of the friends you make there will most likely live on campus as well. However, as enticing as it is to have your friends in your room all the time, that may not always be the best idea. Be reasonable about guests. Make sure your roommate is not working on something or trying to sleep before bringing someone to your room. Also, don’t have a member of the opposite sex in the room without letting your roommate know. It’s just common courtesy.
Accidents happen. There is no way around it sometimes. But that doesn’t mean hide the accident or mistake. If you break or lose something, tell them! Chances are, they will notice. Be responsible for your mistakes and be accountable for what you do. You would expect the same courtesy from them.
You are going to be living with one another for the year, so even if you don’t become the best of friends, you should try to get along. Keep it comfortable for the both of you. Share as much as you can and know that sometimes things are just going to happen. Be kind and courteous and I promise everything will work out.
The last thing is the most important. For any good relationship, no matter what kind it is, you need to be able to talk to one another. That is why this is the biggest tip on how to be a good roommate. Communicate. Try to understand one another and know what you need to do. Talk about things you are going through, issues you may be having, and things you are excited for. You’ll be amazed at how much better you both feel.
I hope these things help you know how to be a good roommate. I know it can be intimidating at first if you have never experienced it before. Thank you so much for stopping by! I hope you enjoyed this. Please like it if you did. Don’t forget to follow before you leave if you have not already and I hope to see you next time!