If you say you’ve never made a mistake, then I have a beach front property in Agartha just for you. Very few people, if any, can say they have never made a mistake. As we live this life, mistakes come with the territory. It’s how we accept and address those mistakes that make all the difference. As Ken Poirot says, “Wisdom comes from making mistakes, having the courage to face them, and make adjustments moving forward based upon the knowledge acquired through those experiences.” As a result of making mistakes, here are a few mistakes that I’ve grown from.
As a youngster, I believed that I could save the world. Athletic, smart and loving by day, yet a fighter (dreams of being a boxer) and justice enforcer by night, or when the opportunity presented itself. As a family member stated, “She fights for fun.” Yes, it as pure fun but there was more to these rambunctious bouts. After many painful lessons from authority figures, I learned Lesson 1: No matter how much I want to, I can’t save the world. Honestly, this lesson is still one I have to keep reminding myself of because with a heart that can warm Pluto, my inner activist and outer voice will always fight for balance, love, self, others, and justice. The wisdom in action comes from the way that these battles are fought and won.
The mistake stemmed from being more physical than thinking and applying, which makes room for Lesson 2: Don’t respond without thinking. This is what keeps so many in the throes of trouble. They react without thinking thoroughly. Emotions are driving the ship instead of it being balanced and maneuvered by the mind and heart. This simply can fuel more chaos than resolving the issue. If you don’t believe me, watch your local news and national news. *sips coffee* I’ll wait. The best stance to take is to think through what the issue is, ways to respond, consider solutions, and the best time to respond, if any. You will save yourself a lot of burned bridges, hurt feelings, and unnecessary revisiting of the matter. So, take a moment to breathe, then proceed.
By utilizing Lesson 2, you can merge into Lesson 3 easier. Never limit your perspective to only what you see and passing judgment with that limited perspective. A good perspective to have is to always consider that there may be another approach or way to view the situation. *cue the flashback music * I remember when I was at work reviewing a manual in a binder, and my computer screen was pulled up to YouTube so that I could play a soft jazz instrumental while I worked on my task. One of the supervisors called me into his office to remind me of what my tasks were. It was a subtle nudge to indicate I was possibly not making the best use of my time. However, I assured him that I was working, and my project would be completed by deadline. He promptly mentioned my computer screen, which was one of six screens. He even ended the statement with “Perception is reality.” I smirked and stated that, “It depends on the perspective.” Intrigued and asking me how so, I informed him of what I was doing and how his limited perspective misinterpreted the situation wrong. And not to mention, we have one screen out of six for personal use, sooo… I’ll just drop that right there. However, working in emergency services has always revealed to me that there’s more to a situation so keep your eyes and mind open to other avenues. This lesson can save you loads of time and limit the wasting of time trying to convince others of a different perspective.
Moving right along, Lesson 4 sits shiny and ready for its debut: Life should not involve putting the comfort of others first, at the expense of your own. Is your church fan waving? Far too many times, I have compromised, sacrificed, and not been present for myself by putting the desires, wants, and needs of others first. Before you say, “Well, what about the kids?” and “Isn’t that narcissistic?” Let me explain. There will be times in which you have to compromise because everything can’t be your way and only your way. My point in this lesson is that we need more self-care for ourselves, instead of draining ourselves emotionally, physically, and mentally consistently. There have been so many times that I didn’t complete my own goals because I helped someone else build their own and comfortably. And years later, I was still trying to build my own goals, and that person was nowhere to be found. The only person I can hold responsible is myself for that.
Are you still with me? Lesson 5 pieces wonderfully with Lesson 4. This lesson is Awareness. Accountability. Action. In order to apply the above lessons, you have to have awareness that we will make mistakes and make it a lifelong endeavor to see and correct such behavior. Accountability of your part in the mistake places you in a position of humility and ownership, opposed to blame. With awareness and accountability, it’s easy to apply action toward changing the behavior and limiting the mistakes made and repeated.
“A person who makes few mistakes makes little progress.” ~Bryan McGill~
We will make mistakes, sometimes many times in one day. It’s up to us to gain wisdom from the mistakes and love ourselves through the moments, as we build upon making our lives better. What lessons have you learned from making mistakes? We would love to hear from you. Thank you for allowing us to be a part of your experience. Please like, share, and subscribe so you don’t miss out on any of Love, Geeky Girl’s content.