Hey guys! Welcome back. I like to self-reflect a lot, and when I was recently reflecting I jotted down a few things that I wanted to share with you today. These are things I wish someone had told me. Most of these are things I have had to learn the hard way, and so if this can in any way help any of you, I will be extremely happy. I wanted to share with you what I wish someone had shared with me. Whether you listen to these things is up to you, but I wanted to do my part in sharing them with you. I hope you are able to draw inspiration and encouragement from these things. Here are the things I wish someone had told me.
1. It’s all temporary. I had a very long and devastating childhood. It was always the same abuse and neglect. So it was hard for me to understand the things I was feeling or cope with what was going on. It seemed to me like it was never going to end. But it did. Now I’m learning that there is no need to worry about things because they are all temporary. Worrying is a waste of time because soon whatever I am worrying about will pass and the time I spent worrying will have been a complete waste. I need to just live and let live because it will all pass in good time.
2. I’m not meant to do it alone. I used to carry the weight of everything on my own. I struggled with trying to understand it, deal with it, and heal from it. But I’ve learned over the past few years that I need to let people in. It’s very difficult when you have a hard time trusting people and knowing who is being genuine. But sometimes you have to trust the wrong people before you find the right ones. Regardless, I know that I need to let people in and allow them to help me through whatever I am going through.
3. Pretending it’s okay doesn’t make it okay. I have a tendency to pretend that I am fine when I’m really not. I’m sure there are many of us who struggle with this. But I have learned that pretending I’m okay doesn’t make the problem go away. If something has happened or I am struggling I can’t just pretend that it’s all okay and that I don’t need any help. Because similarly to what I just mentioned, I can’t do it alone and I shouldn’t have to. I need to open up and stop pretending like I can solve everything because I can’t.
4. I’m always growing. I used to think I was wrong for always changing my mind, but the truth is it’s not altogether a bad thing. It shows that I am growing and changing and becoming a better version of myself. I’m not meant to stay in one place and settle with the first thing that comes along. I am meant to grow and evolve and change my mind. Things change all the time and if you don’t change with them you might get stuck and that can cause unhappiness and bitterness.
5. Life is always now, not tomorrow or next week. I also struggle with the habit of putting things off. I say I’ll start tomorrow or next week. I have a mentality of everything needing to be perfect before I jump into doing anything. But recently I have learned if I do that I am doing myself an injustice. I am not living life to it’s fullest potential. I have a limited amount of time, so I might as well start now. Because today is all I have. I don’t have yesterday because it’s gone and I don’t have tomorrow because it isn’t here yet. I only have today and this moment.
6. It’s okay to make mistakes. I grew up thinking making mistakes was a bad thing. It always led to ridicule and punishment. It was my biggest fear, and it still is. I don’t like making mistakes because it leaves me feeling like I have failed. But that’s not true. One mistake doesn’t lead to complete downfall. It leads to learning and growth. It leads to finding the truth and the purpose for everything and anything I do. Making mistakes is okay as long as it’s not the same mistakes all the time.
7. Find hard work that you love doing. It was instilled in me at a very young age that there was hard work and there was pleasure. They were both very real, but could not happen at the same time. There is no such thing as hard work that you can enjoy. But I have learned that isn’t true. Every job is hard work if you really want to succeed, but there are jobs that I will love doing. There are things that I will work really hard at because I enjoy them. Working hard at something I love doing is the ultimate way to succeed in life.
8. It’s okay to invest in yourself. I have invested a lot of time, money, and energy in myself. Especially in the past year. I used to worry that I was doing something selfish and not thinking of others. But the truth is, it’s not selfish. It has paid off so much and it continues to be valuable. All the while I am still helping others and investing in the lives of other people. It’s all about balance and not thinking only of myself. I still make time for other people and help guide those who come to me for help. But I’ve also learned that investing in myself is a great way to grow and become independent.
9. Make swift decisions and take immediate action. I am an extremely indecisive person. So not making those fast decisions has hurt me a lot in my life. I have learned over the past few months that I need to start making those fast decisions because if I don’t, I will always talk myself out of things. There are always going to be reasons not to do something, but in the end it’s about the things that could go right. If it fails, it’s about the lessons I learn and the ways I grow because I tried something new.
10. Accept and embrace change. Change comes all the time and sometimes we can’t control it. Whether it’s getting fired from a job, the ending of a relationship, or the realization that you want something different, change comes frequently and often without warning. I have learned to accept this and embrace it because so far it hasn’t done any real damage. I know that God has a plan for my life and I know that I need to just trust that and understand that things will change and I need to change with it.
11. Don’t worry too much about what other people think of me. I still do. I always feel like people think or talk about me way more than they actually do. The truth is no one probably thinks about me as much as I think they do and when they do think or talk about me it’s probably not as negative as I think it is. Also, I need to just live my life. I need to do what is best for me regardless of what everyone else thinks. It’s about the journey and living life to the fullest. It’s about being the person I want to be.
12. Always be honest with yourself. I was always taught to be honest with other people and I think that led me to believe that I couldn’t be honest with myself. I don’t know why or when that happened, but it happened. But I have learned that I need to be honest with myself. I need to know when things aren’t right, when I’m not happy, or when I need to create a positive change in my life. I need to trust my heart and my mind and let them work together in creating a life I am happy with.
13. Be who I was born to be. I have learned that who I am is absolutely essential to the world. There are things that I offer that few other people can. Who I am and what I do matters even if there are other people who disagree. I can’t waste my life fulfilling someone else’s dreams. I need to fulfill my own. I need to do what I want and live the life God created me to live. That is when I will feel truly successful, when I know I am working at living the life I was born to live.
Thank you so much for stopping by! I hope you enjoyed this. Please like it if you did. Let me know in the comments what you wish someone had told you. Or what you would like to tell me. Don’t forget to follow before you leave if you have not already and I hope to see you next time!