Hey guys! Welcome back. Today I wanted to talk about boundaries and why they are important. I always wanted to talk about some ways that you can create boundaries in your life so you can actually enjoy it and be comfortable. Boundaries are important in all areas of your life. They allow you to have more control and have a better understanding of what you want and need. However, many of us do things for other people because we don’t want to disappoint them or seem disrespectful. But the truth is you are disrespecting yourself more by giving more of yourself that you can really handle. So I wanted to give you some ways that you can create better boundaries in your life.
1. Get clear on your priorities.
Letting others know what your priorities are allows them to have a better understanding of what is important to you and what not to cross the line about. So if you say you are working on something or need time to go do something, they understand that it is a priority and that it is something that you really need to do. It also gives you an understanding of what you need to work on that is a non-negotiable. It’s just a great way for everyone to know what is really important to you and what you refuse to give up.
2. Communicate what you will and will not tolerate.
People won’t know if something bothers you if you don’t tell them. As someone who has struggled with this, I know that if you never say anything no one will ever know. So you have to communicate when something is unacceptable. Part of creating boundaries in your life includes how people speak about you and to you. It also includes what they do. So communicate what you can tolerate and what you cannot tolerate. It is important that everyone is on the same page. Otherwise, you will continue to have an expectation that others are not aware of.
3. Listen to your gut instinct.
My gut never steers me wrong. When it comes to creating boundaries, I know that it is essential to pay attention to how I feel. If someone asks me to do something and I dread doing it, I know that I should probably decline. If it is something that excites me, I should probably say yes. I know that my gut is the way to go and I have learned to pay attention when I am saying yes just to please someone else.
4. Think about the long term.
Boundaries help us protect ourselves, but they also help us protect others. It’s important to think about the overall impact of your actions. If you agree to do something that you are not prepared for or don’t have the time to give your full effort, that is going to impact the overall task. So it’s important to communicate this with the person asking. Let them know that your plate is too full for you to give them the time and attention they need.
5. Do things because they make you happy.
Procrastination comes from doing things that we absolutely dread doing or just don’t want to do. So doing things that make you happy will help reduce procrastination. Of course, that doesn’t mean that you will never have to do anything you don’t want to do, but it does mean that doing more things that make you happy can help reduce doing things you don’t want to do. We strive so hard to make other people happy, but we worry so little about making ourselves happy.
6. Offer a back up.
If someone asks you to do something, recommend a friend or someone else you know that would be able to help them. Or offer something that you actually can help them with. This way you are not leaving them with nothing. Help them in any way that you possibly can. It’s always good to be able to help people as long as you are not overdoing yourself and setting yourself up for stress.
7. Be direct and firm with your answer.
If you are not firm and direct, people will think there is room for them to convince you. But if you are firm and direct they will be able to see that you really mean your answer and that you cannot be swayed. This removes the badgering and the constant asking. They know your answer and they know that you mean it. So be strong and confident when providing your answer.
Thank you so much for stopping by! I hope you enjoyed this. Please like it if you did. Let us know in the comments how you create boundaries in your life! Don’t forget to follow before you leave if you have not already and I hope to see you next time!
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