Hey guys! Welcome back. I’m not married yet, but I felt compelled to share this with you all now. I wanted to write about what my grandma taught me about marriage and how to be a good wife and mother. She was always a very important person in my life and one of the reasons I have stuck around my home so long. Before she passed away she taught me a few things about being a good wife. Some of these were verbal things that she said to me as I was growing up. Some of them, she showed me and I learned by watching and listening to her. So here are some lessons that my grandma taught me about marriage and being a wife.
1. Letting a man be a man doesn’t make you any less of a woman. This is something that my grandma told me when I was around 13. She told me that taking care of the home does not make you any less of a woman and does not mean that you can’t still have a job or follow your dreams. It just means that you understand your role and that sometimes if you don’t do it, it may not get done. So as I head into my marriage, I will carry this with me. I will know that just because I do my best to take care of my home, that it doesn’t mean I can’t continue to follow my dreams.
2. Love him for all the things he does right instead of the one thing he does wrong. My grandma taught me that no one is perfect and no relationship is perfect. But if you are with the right person and you know it in your heart, that you will recognize all the things that he does right and see him for all the goodness that he has to offer. But if you are with the wrong person, you will only want to focus on the things he does wrong and the things that he takes away from you. So it is important to make sure that the person you choose to be with is someone that you see the good in over the bad. Because no one is perfect, but if they are mostly bad for you, they are not the right person.
3. Forgiving doesn’t mean forgiving, but it does mean letting go. When my parents were getting divorced and all the things were happening, I confided in my grandmother. It was important to have someone to turn to in a time of such darkness and heaviness. She told me that I needed to forgive my parents for what they had done. I needed to forgive them for the hurt that they had caused and all the things that had happened. She told me that holding on to all of those things would only hurt me and that they would never understand how I feel. She told me that one day I will get married and have children and I needed to learn how to forgive in order to be fully happy in that position.
4. Be his biggest cheerleader. My grandparents were married for a really long time. I had never really thought about it until my grandma told me that it was more than just about love. Love is important to any good marriage, but there is more to it than that. Love does not create the solid foundation that a marriage needs to succeed. A successful marriage takes trust and support. Love is only one part of everything that is needed to have a successful and lasting marriage.
5. Marriage is until death do us part – and even after. My grandmother taught me a long time ago that marriage is a very big commitment. However, in today’s society it doesn’t always look that way. I don’t know many people whose parents are still married, so the commitment side of marriage isn’t a huge deal anymore. But my grandma always told me that I should not choose someone that I can live with. I should choose to marry someone I can’t live without.
These are lessons that my grandma taught me about being a wife. Thank you so much for stopping by! I hope you enjoyed this. Please like it if you did. Let us know in the comments lessons that your mom or grandma taught you about marriage (even if you aren’t married yet). Don’t forget to follow before you leave if you have not already and I hope to see you next time!