Hey guys! Welcome back! I hope you have had a great weekend! Today I wanted to share with you a few things that I have learned in the past few months. I have been through a lot in the past few months. And the crazy thing is, I almost got married. Yesterday was supposed to be my wedding day. That’s a little sad to me and it’s been rough. But I decided instead of being sad, I would take this time to reflect on some of the things that I have learned these past few months, so here they are.
Things won’t be as bad as you think.
I stayed in a relationship that I was unhappy in because I was afraid of what was on the other side. I was afraid of disappointing people or receiving judgement. But once I ended things, I realized that things weren’t as bad as I thought they would be. It did take some time and it’s not going to all be okay overnight, but it’s not that bad. I learned that letting go was a good decision and I am much happier now.
Sometimes you have to put yourself first.
You can’t sit around and let people treat you however they want. That’s no way to live. It took me a really long time to learn that, but once I did I was much better off. I learned that sometimes it is absolutely necessary to put myself first and do what is best for me. It won’t always be the popular decision and people may not like it, but I have to do what is going to be the best for me in the long run.
It’s not embarrassing to admit your need help.
I still struggle with this, but something I am slowly learning is that it’s okay to need help. It’s okay to ask for help. No one was intended to do everything alone. We should be able to depend on people and get help when we need it. There is nothing wrong with asking. But if you don’t ask, the answer will always be no.
Time moves in mysterious ways.
The past several months have gone by really quickly, but really slowly all at the same time. It’s strange to think that two months ago I was in a relationship and I hadn’t even started my last semester yet. And here we are and things are so completely different. I never would have guessed that any of this would have happened.
People move at different paces.
Not everyone has the same walk of life. We don’t always do things at the same pace as someone else. Not everyone finishes college in four years. Not everyone does things in the order that someone else does. Everyone walks through life at their own pace and that’s okay. It doesn’t mean that any one person is better than another, it just means that people move through life differently.
Don’t lose yourself in someone else.
This is a big one for me. I was on the verge of losing myself completely just to be in a relationship with someone who didn’t have the same views on life as me. It’s scary looking back at how close I was to entering into a lifetime of uncertainty. I learned that it’s important to let go of people who hold you back in any way.
What you feel is valid.
I had doubts and uncertainties about a lot of things, not just in my relationship, but about life in general. And one of the biggest things I learned is that those doubts are valid. It’s perfectly okay to have those feelings as long as you are prepared to do something about them. Don’t let them hang around if you aren’t willing to act on those feelings of doubt and unhappiness.
Friends are important.
The people who have been there for me the most these past few months has been my friends. They have supported me, lifted me up, and really helped me get back up after I had completely fallen. And through all of the good and the bad, I realized how completely essential good friends are in our lives.
There is a song for every situation and feeling.
For me specifically I mean Taylor Swift. But if you aren’t a Taylor Swift fan, there is a song out there that you can connect to whatever you are feeling or facing right now. I love music because it helps us say the things that we just can’t find the words to say. And over the past several months I have found that to be even more true through listening to new songs and finding strength and healing through those songs.
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