Hey guys! Welcome back. This is a post that was requested quite a while ago and I am finally getting around to writing it. I am sharing what I consider to be red flags in a friendship or a relationship. Of course, there are many red flags, some that I may not mention, but these are the ones I consider to be the most common or that I have experienced myself. If you have any of your own that you would like to share, feel free to leave them in the comments. And now, here are some things that I consider to be red flags for a friendship or a relationship.
They talk negatively about their friends to you.
This is one that I think a lot of people don’t think about. Maybe we just think it’s gossip or maybe we aren’t really thinking much of it. But if they are always talking negatively about their other friends to you, imagine what they are saying about you when you’re not around. Always be aware of someone’s habits and how they interact and talk about other people. It’s very telling on the kind of person they are.
You get a lot of backhanded compliments.
For me, backhanded compliments are very awkward because I never know how to respond. And sometimes I don’t realize it’s a backhanded compliment until way after the fact. People who give you backhanded compliments consistently aren’t really the best people to hang around. You deserve to have people around who genuinely compliment you and make you feel good.
Communication ceases for periods of time.
This one is a bit tricky I can’t deny. Because sometimes we get busy. Especially when it comes to friendships it can be difficult to tell if someone is just flaky or if they have things going on and can’t always get back to you. However, when you combine their communication habits with some other red flags, you have to look at it that way. If they stop talking to you just out of spite and there is no valid reason, it is definitely a red flag.
They make you feel guilty.
A huge red flag that I wish I had known earlier is when the other person constantly makes you feel guilty. Whether it’s how you feel, what you say, or what you do, you shouldn’t have to feel guilty all the time. It’s important to be aware of these things and watch for patterns. If you find yourself feeling guilty for every little thing, it may be time to evaluate the relationship with the person.
They are openly manipulative.
If you are with someone who always tries to control you and manipulates you into doing whatever they want, it’s not good. Unless that is a relationship that you want to be in it’s probably best to walk away as soon as you can. You shouldn’t be with someone who is manipulative at all, but someone who is openly manipulative does it because they know they can and you will still stick around.
They turn everything into a competition.
There are competitive people, but there are also people who turn things that aren’t a competition into a competition. These are often very prideful people who look out for themselves first. This isn’t always the case, but in many situations if you have a friend or a partner who is always trying to compete, either with you or others, they probably have a need to feed their pride and boost their ego.
There’s always drama and fights.
If you have a friend or a partner that always seems to be involved in some kind of drama, that is definitely a red flag. You don’t want to be around someone who is constantly fighting or being openly dramatic about every situation. Because if it hasn’t yet, it may eventually turn to you and they will be fighting with you. That’s just not a situation that you want to be in.
You feel bullied or controlled.
If you have feelings of being bullied or controlled, this is probably the biggest red flag. Whether it is physical, emotional, or verbal, feeling like you are being attacked or bullied is no way to live. No friendship or relationship is worth feeling like that. Believe me, I know. It’s not something you should have to endure so I recommend getting help or leaving the relationship if you can.
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