Hey guys! Welcome back. I have spent a lot of time this week reflecting on the past year. So much happened, and as I work to close that chapter and start on a new one, I decided to sit down and write down my biggest takeaways from 2019. It was a big year and I learned so much, so I felt it was valuable to share these with you. Maybe this will help you as we jump into a new year. These are the lessons I took away, usually the hard way.
The first lesson I learned is that you can let go of something you love, not because you don’t love it anymore but because it’s not good for you. And in this situation I am mostly referring to one major event in my life. And I am sure many of you can deduce what that event is. But the main point from this lesson is that just because you let go of something (or someone) doesn’t mean that it didn’t mean anything or that you don’t love it. It just means that for your own self you needed to let go.
Another lesson is that you can forgive someone and not want them back in your life. It takes a lot to forgive someone for something they did to you. It takes even more to not let them back in. It’s really hard. But it’s okay to forgive someone and then not let them back in. If they are not a positive presence in your life, you shouldn’t feel like you have to let them back in no matter who they are.
It is not your job to fix other people. I had to learn this the hard way. I thought I could fix someone and change their life, but the truth is, that wasn’t my responsibility. They had to do that themselves and it wasn’t going to be a good situation for me to go in and try to fix their life. I had to let go of what I thought could be and see the situation for what it was. It was really difficult but I learned that I can’t fix other people and that’s not what I am here for.
There are people out there who truly care deeply for you. I learned this really well this year. I learned that there are many people who care about me and want to help me. I learned that many people love me. The reason I thought anyone didn’t and that I was alone is because I was thinking about the wrong people. I was thinking about the people who don’t love me and don’t care about me. What I need to do is focus on all the people who do and remind myself that I am never really alone.
Trauma is not your fault, but healing is your responsibility. I have faced a lot of trauma in my life. It hasn’t been fun or easy. And for a long time I just let it go because I really believed there was no solution. I didn’t know how to heal and move on. But the reality was I wasn’t taking responsibility. I wasn’t doing my part in the process. So in 2019 I really worked to start healing and doing what I needed to do.
I won’t grow and things won’t change unless I make the effort to do so. Throughout this past year I struggled a lot with what I wanted my future to look like. And I have to admit it’s been a process. When 2019 started I envisioned it being completely different. But one of the biggest things I learned is that my life won’t be different and things won’t change unless I do. That’s why I’m moving. That’s why I am creating a fresh start for myself. Because I can’t stop hurting and I can’t find what I want if I don’t try.
And now I feel truly comfortable saying goodbye to 2019 and letting it go. On to whatever 2020 has in store for me. Thank you so much for stopping by! I hope you enjoyed this. Please like it if you did. Let us know in the comments what lessons you learned from 2019. Don’t forget to follow before you leave if you have not already and I hope to see you next time!