Hey guys! Welcome back. Today I wanted to take some time to respond to a request I recently received from a reader. This person asked me to write a post with some tips on how to help a friend who is going through a crisis. Now I didn’t ask what the crisis is and what this person is dealing with specifically. So these will be very vague and general tips. But because they requested this, I wanted to do it not only for them, but also for anyone else who also needs some tips. So hopefully this helps in some way.
Spend some time with them.
I know for most people going through a crisis the biggest thing someone can do to help is to just be there for them and spend time with them. It’s just nice to know that someone is there in case you need anything or you are really struggling. No matter what the crisis is, I know if I was really struggling with something just knowing my friends are there and are willing to spend time with me is really helpful.
Another thing that is really helpful is knowing that there is someone that will listen. We all need someone that we can talk things through with and know that they won’t get bored, annoyed, or try to interrupt. So if you have a friend struggling with a crisis, be there to listen to them so they know they aren’t alone even if you can’t physically be with them all the time.
Save your advice for later.
If someone you know is dealing with a crisis or struggling with something, the last thing you want to do is offer any advice or opinions without them asking for it. If they don’t ask you directly, it is best to just keep that to yourself until you are sure they are ready for it. Otherwise, they might feel as though they can’t trust you or they won’t want to confide in you anymore.
Validate their feelings.
Even if you have struggled with something similar, you truly never know what someone else is feeling, how they are responding to the situation, and what is going on in other areas of their life. So when they express how they feel, do your best to help validate those feelings and allow them to talk it through with you. It is something that helps me work through things that I am going through.
Do things for them.
When going through a crisis, it is difficult to find the time, or the energy at times, to do even the most mundane chores. So if you know that a friend is struggling with something, help them out as much as you can. Wash their dishes, offer to take in their pet for a few days, or anything else you can do to take some pressure and responsibility off of them for a little while until they work through the situation.
Ask them how you can help.
Most people going through a crisis aren’t going to ask for help or know what to ask sometimes. So if you ask them how you can help it might help them see that you are willing to help and that they can confide in you. It can relieve a lot of stress and give them the chance to see some hope. And even if they don’t want the help, just knowing that you offered can help more than you know.
Consistently check in.
I don’t mean call them every hour on the hour and ask if they are okay. But just check in every now and then to see if they need anything or want anything. Check in and see how they are doing and what you can do to make them feel a little better. Checking in shows that you care about them and that no matter what they are not alone in whatever situation they are facing right now.
Thank you so much for stopping by! I hope you find this helpful. Please like it if you did. Let us know in the comments if you have any tips for helping a friend that is going through a crisis. Don’t forget to follow before you leave if you have not already and I hope to see you next time!